This selection from graphic childbirth clips shows the crowning
of the baby. The coming of the baby makes us face our own pains from
childhood. In childbirth and in parenting we experience the traumas
we have had and try to find a solution.
When we live with resentment we attract the very same
behavior we hate. Then we see the patterns of this behavior in our
own way of treating our children. In the long run, it is far easier
to forgive and move away from the pains of the past. Being able to
forgive, you can achieve real freedom from your own childhood traumas.
As parents we need to forgive ourselves, and then you
can forgive others. We cannot be perfect, and we unintentionally cause
pain to our children. Being too good, or being too restrictive, we
are making our children develop unwanted behavior along with all the
mice things we do.
Forgiveness is about letting go, learning to accept
what it is, completely and permanently. We recognize that what has
happened has happened and it cannot dominate our life anymore. Carrying
around the load of resentment is an enormous and unnecessary burden.
The faster we are able to forgive, the lighter our burden is.
So in our preparation for childbirth let us try to
forgive. You can forgive yourself, your parents, your partner, your
doctors for previous childbirths you did not like, you can forgive
even if you don't know exactly who to forgive. This will make it really
easy for you to allow yourself to have a miraculous childbirth.
What is the ideal childbirth for you? How do you imagine your childbirth to happen? Where are you giving birth, who is present, how is it going? Are there any sounds, how lit is the setting? How long is your childbirth? Share any action steps that are helping you to experience that childbirth?
What are all the things you have learned and done to have such a childbirth?
What is your next step to make this childbirth real?