Vaginal childbirth
video clips are something the family can cherish and can be a great
present for the children. The coming into being is recorded in the subconscious
of the child. It leaves its imprint, a distinct watermark on a mother's
and a child's soul. When a baby is born, a mother is born! Even if she
already has children, each birth unfolds new aspects of her self, uplifts
her and enriches her personality.
All women share the insight of the transformative potential
of childbirth. In the past, the childbirth experience was weaved in
daily life by poetry, songs, music, stories. Women shared their experience
with the young and created a positive view of birth. Even when birth
was not painless or was difficult, sharing helped the mother to integrate
it and sort the event in her consciousness.
Nowadays, the outcome is important - a healthy baby.
The medicalized birth is preferred due to unproven prejudices about
the complexities of birth and the proclaimed inability of the mother
to cope with the process on her own. This sometimes prevents the woman
from experiencing the natural impulses at birth which help her to
produce joy-inducing hormones and to experience it as pleasure, not
a torture. After a traumatic birth women often shut down and do not
comment it. Trying to avoid this experience, it is hard for them to
cope consciously with a feeling of loss.
Often this brings about problems in the natural bonding
of mother and child and results in postpartum depression. Postpartum
depression makes a mother avoid gazing her child in the very first
moments when the child consciousness is formed by matching the image
of the mother. If the mother is hiding and avoiding looking deep into
her baby eyes, because she is internally lost, the child's self is
lost. Later in life, the same child might feel a strange feeling of
emptiness and inability to put together a "Self". When a mother is
not prepared to be seen, the child suffers deeply. And so does the
mother.
Experiencing a vaginal birth in a supporting environment,
on the other hand, helps the mother share the common empowerment of
the all-women consciousness and relate to this later in life as a
source of trust in her abilities and inspiration.
What is the ideal childbirth for you? How do you imagine your childbirth to happen? Where are you giving birth, who is present, how is it going? Are there any sounds, how lit is the setting? How long is your childbirth? Share any action steps that are helping you to experience that childbirth?
What are all the things you have learned and done to have such a childbirth?
What is your next step to make this childbirth real?